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By Ciara Gordon<\/p>\n
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I recently went home from Limerick and one of my family members told me that they had been at a disco the week before and had shifted five different people during the night. My first reaction was: \u201cAre you ok? Was it consensual? Did you enjoy it?\u201d and after that my thoughts were: \u201cFair play, I wish I could do the same!\u201d Now that probably says a lot about me, but we\u2019ll move on.<\/p>\n
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Fast forward to a few hours later and I was being told that that kind of behaviour was disgraceful, and said person was going to get a bad reputation for themselves and get called a slut and I needed to have a word with them. Now, the person in question is admittedly young and probably should not get into the habit of doing this too often.<\/p>\n
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But still, I honestly could not get over this reaction. It\u2019s 2015, do we seriously still live in a society whereby your reputation is more important than enjoying yourself? Well yeah, I knew that was still a thing but it\u2019s a pain in the ass when I see just how much of a thing it still is.<\/p>\n
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The word \u2018slut\u2019 is one that is mostly used to refer to any girl between the ages of about 12 and 30 who has done anything from wear a skirt above their knees, to have sex with more than one person in the space of a couple of weeks.<\/p>\n
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Yet, usually if a male was to do the same thing he would be either just ignored or celebrated, and be known as a \u2018stud\u2019 or \u2018pimp\u2019. God only knows how many songs there are with singers talking about what a pimp they are because they have so many \u2018hoes\u2019.<\/p>\n
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Oftentimes, even when someone calls out a man for getting with too many people they\u2019re referred to as a \u2018man- whore\u2019 or \u2018man-slut\u2019, making it clear that these kinds of words are inherently feminine. Just because I\u2019m a girl, society has programmed those around me to refer to me as a slut because I want to wear a cute crop top or kiss three people in one night.<\/p>\n
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On top of this, getting slut shamed is almost a given for anyone who is bi\/pansexual. Because obviously someone who can be attracted to more than one gender wants to have sex with everyone, right? No. Just because someone is polysexual (meaning they\u2019re attracted to more than one gender), it doesn\u2019t mean they are polyamorous.<\/p>\n
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I mean monosexual people are often attracted to more than just one person, and it\u2019s the same thing for bi\/pan people. Your sexuality has zero bearing on how actively sexual you are as a person, it depends entirely on what you yourself want. No sexuality is \u2018sluttier\u2019 or more promiscuous than any other.<\/p>\n
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The fact of the matter is, it has no bearing on your life whether or not someone wants to have sex with three people in one night or show some cleavage. These words are used simply by petty or jealous people, myself included, but at the end of the day, \u2018slut\u2019, \u2018whore\u2019, \u2018hoe\u2019 and all the others need to become redundant words, because there is simply no need for them to be used anymore.<\/p>\n