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New Semester New You<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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Advice please! What are the best ways to meet new people in college? Lonely in Limerick.<\/h4>\n

Fear not, I\u2019ve got your back! I\u2019ve always found the best way to make a new friend \u2013 outside of any Frankensteinian shenanigans \u2013 is to really just put yourself out there.<\/p>\n

Dale Carnegie once wrote that \u201cyou can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you\u201d. Put that into practice. Ask your classmates about themselves. Get to know them.<\/p>\n

For the best results and widest reach, you\u2019ll want to start where you\u2019ve got the biggest gathering of people. Tomorrow morning, stand up at the top of your lecture hall and start probing your classmates with increasingly personal and intimate questions. About their hopes and dreams, their families, their sex lives, their mother\u2019s maiden name and the last four digits of their debit card number. Show them you\u2019re interested in them!<\/p>\n

Try to ignore the protests of the confused lecturer standing behind you. Your self-development is just as important as whatever trivial bull they\u2019re talking about.<\/p>\n

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Adam, I\u2019ve just moved back from Erasmus for fourth year and I\u2019m living on campus with five strangers. They\u2019re all friends since first year and I\u2019m finding it hard to relate and bond with them. What do I do? Odd One Out in Drumroe.<\/h4>\n

I feel your pain Odd One Out. Being the sixth wheel is never great.<\/p>\n

What you want to do is put more effort into getting to know them as individuals, rather than as a group. How do you do this? Divide and conquer.<\/p>\n

Sometimes you\u2019ve got to burn the world down before you can build it back up. Spread lies and vicious rumours about one of them and when confronted about it, tell the person in question that you heard it from another housemate. Take intimate belongings from one housemate\u2019s room and hide them under the bedsheets of another. Really get in there and tear their lives apart from the inside.<\/p>\n

Once you\u2019ve done that, you\u2019re free to build those valuable, meaningful trust relationships with the people you\u2019ll be seeing every day for the next five months.<\/p>\n

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Hey Adam, help a girl out. I was dating a guy on my course last semester, but we broke up over the holidays. We\u2019ve still got to see each other in class every day and hang out in our friend group. How do I not make it awkward this semester? Mood Killa in Cappavilla.<\/h4>\n

The best scenario for everyone involved is the one that avoids that awkward lingering passive conflict that makes everyone inevitably have to choose a side between you and your ex. Simply skip this step by fully committing to the belief that he emigrated to the US over the holidays.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s asking you a question in class? No he isn\u2019t. He\u2019s in Utah. He\u2019s telling you it\u2019s your turn to buy the round? Impossible, you saw him off at the airport. He\u2019s feeling awkward because you just sat on his lap like you used to when you were together? How is this chair talking?<\/p>\n

Problem solved.<\/p>\n

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Adam help. I\u2019m lost in the main building. Jeff, main building.<\/h4>\n

It\u2019s been nice knowing you, bud. Hope you\u2019ve got snacks and WiFi.<\/p>\n

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Have you got a problem you\u2019d like Adam\u2019s help with? Drop him a message on @a_leahy on Twitter!<\/p>\n

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New Semester New You   Advice please! What are the best ways to meet new people in college? Lonely in Limerick. Fear not, I\u2019ve got your back! I\u2019ve always found the best way to make a new friend \u2013 outside of any Frankensteinian shenanigans \u2013 is to really just put yourself out there. Dale Carnegie […]<\/p>\n

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