The semester is back in full swing as we wrap up week two and Adam\u2019s on hand to answer some of your burning readjustment to college life questions.<\/p>\n
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I feel your pain, friend! Sometimes being just too darn popular can be a real hindrance.<\/p>\n
Perhaps the best option is to go with public opinion. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, they say. Follow that mantra. Let them know what they\u2019re going to miss out on by giving them what they think they want.<\/p>\n
Allow your housemates some space to breathe and reflect on all your positive traits and the things they love about you. There\u2019s got to be something, right?<\/p>\n
You never know, maybe they\u2019ll invite you back after things have blown over!<\/p>\n
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I\u2019m sorry to hear you\u2019re getting such shade from your housemate. This is a tricky one, for sure. How you handle this could really shape how your housemates at large see you going forward.<\/p>\n
Maybe you don\u2019t need to make them believe you. Perhaps you can use this to your advantage and gain a few concessions from your other housemates.<\/p>\n
Play along. Accept the blame. And maybe if you agree to stop then you can get exclusive rights to the comfy chair during First Dates and Home and Away? Or perhaps they\u2019ll exempt you from your round at The Stables every second Wednesday for the semester?<\/p>\n
Every crisis can become an opportunity, comrade. Or you could stop leaving your stuff along the perimeters of your housemate\u2019s room. I\u2019m not sure which is the easier option.<\/p>\n
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You\u2019ve got my sympathy. Trying to fit in when you feel like you don\u2019t belong is never easy.<\/p>\n
The best thing we can do when faced with imposter syndrome is to take a step back, consider the things we like about ourselves and the things we don\u2019t like but can improve on. What are our accomplishments? Things we\u2019re proud we\u2019ve achieved? Think about how they make us unique and how they\u2019ve earned us our place where we are today. One man\u2019s discarded Stables chicken roll is another\u2019s dumpster dinner delight. We\u2019re still eating at the same restaurant!<\/p>\n
Don\u2019t compare yourself to others, their thoughts and achievements are no bearing on yours.<\/p>\n
Avoid chewing on the desks in lecture halls and I\u2019ll see you on graduation day!<\/p>\n
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Have you got a problem you\u2019d like Adam\u2019s help with? Drop him a message on @a_leahy<\/a> on Twitter!<\/p>\n